Get the compassion & support you deserve from someone who’s been there.

I know what it’s like to end a wanted pregnancy because I ended mine with my son, Frankie.

After he died, I felt a pull toward this work, channeling my personal experience & my professional training to be the support for others that I needed through my own loss.

Allow me to introduce myself.

  • Hi there! My name is Jane. A little about me:

    One of my favorite things to do is comfort-watching sit-com series I’ve already seen a dozen times. I’m native Texan/Austinite & have some pretty complicated feelings about both. I am an IVF baby from back when it was still a relatively new procedure. I’m also a proud mom to two boys: one in my heart & one in my arms.

    My first pregnancy with my beloved son, Frankie, ended in termination for medical reasons (TFMR) & my entire life changed.

    I’ve built this practice for you. I want to fill the gaps in support for parents like me in Texas & beyond. I am passionate about this work & supporting parents through the sometimes difficult transition to parenthood & family-building.

  • If you’re interested in my TFMR story with my son, Frankie, you can listen to my interview on the Love & Loss podcast in the blue box below.

  • As a therapist, I believe the working relationship I have with my clients is one of our most important & powerful tools for healing & progress. Our interactions with one another in session can be a supported place to develop & practice new skills, integrate the past into the present & future, & to explore things that may feel too intense or overwhelming to approach alone or even with friends &/or family. Our time together can be a brave, dedicated, judgment-free space to talk about your baby/ies, your struggles, & your progress without worrying about being a burden. Trust me, I can handle it & I can help you to handle it better.

    My style in therapy feels both conversational & intentional, in which I’ll ask thoughtful questions informed by your individual experience & background to help you connect & clarify the things in your life that are causing you stress &/or pain. My approach is client-driven, meaning that I will tailor our work to your individual strengths & needs, follow your lead, & ask for your input & feedback. Depending on what you need on any given day, we may talk or be silent, we may set a specific goal for our session or see what comes up in the moment, & we may laugh, cry, curse, or any combination of the above.

    I only offer online therapy & support groups at this time, therefore in-person appointments are not possible. Virtual counseling has many advantages & I work with clients to ensure they are getting the most out of our time together, no matter how far apart we may physically be.

    I always begin meeting with clients weekly for at least the first 2-3 months (& often longer) before some clients choose to meet every other week. Many clients continue meeting weekly throughout our work together. Every client’s needs are unique & most work with me for at least 6 months to a year & often through several important life transitions such as pregnancy/infant loss, TTC/infertility after loss, & pregnancy/parenting after loss.

  • If you choose to schedule an intake appointment at the end of your free intro call, you will promptly receive an email invitation to my secure client portal. Here you’ll be able to complete your intake paperwork, set communication preferences, & provide your contact & payment information. Intake paperwork must be completed at least 24 hours in advance of your first session. If you opt for appointment reminders, you will receive text/email reminders with links to log into your first appointment.

    In your first session, we will review some of the most important policies covered in your intake paperwork (such as my cancellation policy), answer any questions that may have come up from the paperwork or since our intro call, & then spend the majority of the time going through the circumstances bringing you to therapy. This is your opportunity to really dig into your story & share some of your goals for therapy. I often will end the session with some kind of closing/grounding exercise &/or some self care planning, since folks can often find that telling their story is emotionally, mentally, & even physically exhausting.

    I typically recommend booking a 60-minute session for this first appointment to give time for all of these important topics.

  • You want the resume? Here are some highlights:

    I am a licensed clinical social worker & board-approved clinical supervisor (LCSW-S) in the state of Texas. This just means that I have a Masters of Science in Social Work (MSSW) & am licensed to provide therapy & clinical supervision for folks in the state. I am also certified in perinatal mental health through Postpartum Support International (PMH-C), which means I’ve received extensive & ongoing training on mental health during pregnancy & the postpartum period (including following TFMR/loss).

    Prior to opening my own private practice, I spent my career in nonprofits, school social work, & clinical & case management services for patients living with HIV/AIDs. I’ve loved how adaptable a social work background can be, allowing me to provide diverse & highly tailored services to my clients, no matter the setting or goals of our work together.

    Along with these credentials & professional training/experience, I also have personal experience with many of the issues my clients bring into therapy. This often means we share a baseline understanding & language that many of my clients value in our work together, allowing me to relate in a way other professionals may not be able to.

What’s the deal with “Both/And” in your practice name?

White ampersand with black shadow on light teal background. Logo for Both/And Therapy, PLLC.

Great question & loving your curiosity!

When I was in graduate school, I had a professor who shared that she was working to remove “but” from her everyday vocabulary. She realized that “but” wasn’t often actually what she meant. She meant “and.”

Consider how different this phrase sounds just swapping out this one word: “I love you, but _____,” vs. “I love you and _____.” What do you notice?

The word “but” undoes what comes before it. The word “and” makes space for two or more things to exist at once, even if they seem at first glance to be mutually exclusive. “And” makes room for complexity & truth. “And” allows for an open & accepting heart.

Life is all about more than one thing being true at once. Life is all about living in the grey. And as challenging or uncomfortable as it can be, when we let go of “either/or” thinking in favor of “both/and” thinking, we open up possibilities for deeper, more meaningful, & truly human experiences.

As much as I loved this idea in graduate school, I found myself gravitating back to it more & more after my TFMR (termination for medical reasons). I needed “and” to help me understand the complexity of my experience. Here are some examples of how important the word “and” can be in making sense of a TFMR experience:

  • You love your baby/ies & you ended your pregnancy/ies.

  • You had to overcome considerable legal/logistical barriers to care & you have done nothing wrong/bad.

  • Your baby’s life matters & your life matters.

  • You did the best you could with the information you had at the time & there may be things you would do differently if you could go back knowing what you know now.

  • People think you made a choice & it felt like you had no choice.

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